Many of us are aware that there is a problem in many types of relationships…..abuse.

Welcome to my blog! The purpose of this blog is to create a place where not only I, but other survivors of abuse and domestic violence can come together and share experiences. My hope is that this blog will provide a safe place where other survivors of abuse, or loved ones of those who have suffered from abuse can come together and comment or share stories and hope with one another.

Much like a phoenix rising from the ashes, I felt the need to rise and pick myself up after having personally suffered years of abuse myself. I experienced abuse as a child and domestic violence a few times over. After a while I felt as though I literally had red target on my back. It has taken a lot personal experience, research, and therapy to overcome the traumas that I have experienced in my life. Most of all it was my support system that consisted of a couple of friends, family members, and a cognitive behavior therapist. The book featured here on my website is my first published book and it in itself served as a form of therapy for me to help me in healing. I was forced to leave some information out as I felt some information was to traumatic. I felt that sharing some of the relationship red flags I learned over the years in the book would help others. Those red flags turned out to be early warning sigs of abuse to come. The most rewarding learning experience I received throughout all of these experiences was finally learning to love myself. I never fully understood that message when I was younger that I have to fully learn to love myself first before I can really experience real love or learn to love someone else. I understand now.

My expectation is that as experiences, thoughts and comments are shared we will be respectful to one another. My hope is that the experiences and comments shared here will be held in the highest regard and that we can help lift each other up. My hope is that others will feel safe in commenting and sharing personal experiences to help shed light on some experiences. By sharing similar experiences that others may also be experiencing, perhaps some ideas may come to light on how to overcome the situation or how to get out of the situation. Sometimes just taking about the situation and getting it out does help. Together we can provide each other hope.

My final thoughts are that as a survivor of child abuse and domestic violence I know that there is hope and a better life on the other side. I also know that there are days where I still struggle, I still need to vent, and I will always need my support team. Most of all I need to reach out to more people like me who have faced or are currently facing abuse. I hope that my blog reaches people that are in need of support or are that are questioning if they are in an abusive relationship. I can't tell you how many times I was gaslighted and scratching my head asking the very question, "Am I in an abusive relationship or am I just imagining what just happened to me?" The pain was real and no I did not imagine it!. If you are here it is for a reason.

There is hope so never give up! Never remain in silent because there is always help out there! ***If you are a loved one of someone in an abusive relationship, please don't give up no matter how hard that person tries to push you away. Keep in mind the real person trying to push you away from your loved on is the abuser. An abuser's primary goal is to isolate their target from their support system. Don't let them win and please never blame your loved one that is being abused!